As a mother and a Christian I do my best to teach my kids to love others. We go over showing love and kindness. Things like giving hugs, helping without being asked, or even just giving someone a little extra attention when they’re having a bad day. Of course we try to practice this as well. Having four kids, we get a lot of teachable moments. (Yea, that’s what I’ll call them…teachable moments)
Though as surprising as it may sound, when my daughter came home this past weekend complaining some of her classmates had been mean to her, showing love was not my first thought. Bad mommy, I know. In my defense she’s come home talking about these same little girls numerous times in the past. So I had turned the other cheek one too many times.
Naturally I spent the entire weekend going over what happened with her over and over again. I had to make sure I had all the details. Of course I jumped on Facebook and told my mom group all about it. How could I leave my mommas out? And they all told me to email the teacher, principal, super intendant, and even Facebook stalk the parents. (Side note: if you don’t have a group of complete strangers that hype you up like this, what are you doing with your life? )
Here comes Monday morning and I am ready. I’ve made up my mind to go into the school and give everyone a piece of my mind. How dare they not protect my daughter from these evil little girls. Even went so far as to ask my daughter to point the girls out to me. And no, I did not plan on having a heart to heart with them or their moms. (I already said bad mommy, gosh)
Time to get out of the car and my baby girl stops me. “Mommy,” she says, “I want to show these girls love and kindness today. I want to give them hugs and let them know the way they talk to me makes me sad. Will you let me try that first? ” My heart dropped. What type of mother was I? In the span of the weekend I had made up my mind to go against everything I had ever taught her. Not saying I was about do something too crazy, but still. My thoughts weren’t sunshine and rainbows, that’s for sure.
A little reluctant, I let her go. She has to grow up one day and besides she was teaching me at that moment. I did go ahead and email the teacher anyway. and made a point to emphasize she needed to let the teacher know if anything bad happened. Happy with her decision, she jumped out the car and on her way she went.
Check out the video below to see how her day went.
Its moments like these that teach me the most. Love really does conquer all and I pray my baby girl continues to make such amazing choices, even when her momma may not be on the same path, lol.